The diggedens


It’s been a while since I updated the front page as a lot has happened in the last few weeks. We are all mourning the loss of Meryll, working hard to come to terms with our grief and striving to live our lives in a joyful way so that we can bring honor to her memory. 

What an amazing sister, daughter, wife, mother, grandmother and friend she was to all who were privileged to know her in life. We will never forget you Meryll, heaven is now a brighter place and you will live on forever in our hearts.

These are some of the memories I have that make me smile, laugh and sigh...

  1. -Sliding down the bannister at the house in Pietermaritzburg.

  2. -Putting on my favorite red dress and following you to school when you were in first grade.

  3. -Robert jumping out from around the corner and scaring you so badly you dropped your glass of water.

  4. -Stealing toffees from the corner cafe :)

  5. -Playing at the plot with our cousins.

  6. -Throwing water filled balloons from the balcony at Nolia Court.

  7. -Feeding our dinner to the dogs when granny wasn’t looking.

  8. -Entertaining you in my shorty pyjamas at bedtime with a rendition of “I’m so dizzy” (until mom cut it short with a quick whack to the backside!)

  9. -The camping trip that almost never happened because mom lost her wallet. Who knew you could pitch a tent all on your own?

  10. -Sharing a bedroom and bunk bed with you as teenagers. I REALLY wanted the bottom bunk but mom said I couldn’t have it just because I sleepwalked!

  11. -Hours of fun in the sun at the Selection Park swimming pool.

  12. -Speed skating at the Benoni ice rink.

  13. -The Christmas holiday at St Michael’s-on-Sea.

  14. -The New Year’s eve when I made you sit with Brian for a photo instead of your boyfriend Richard (do I have good taste or what?!)

  15. -Watching you get married and have your children.

  16. -Your surprisingly unenthusiastic reaction when your toddlers announced I’d taught them how to burp.

  17. -Eating jub-jubes with you in the hospital after your back surgery.

  18. -The Seychelles trip: the “snow” at dinner time, green beans, getting stuck in the elevator, the thong (!!), Lulu getting tossed into the ocean.

  19. -Stabbing myself in the backside on your kitchen counter.

  20. -Watching over mom together in her final days, and watching over each other in the days thereafter.

  21. -You being there when I almost lost Sachin, when he was born, and afterwards.

  22. -Me breaking your heart when I moved to the USA.

  23. -Your trip to the States: LA, Beverly Hills (remember the woman in the elevator who wouldn’t stop staring?), Gladstones, Santa Barbara, Las Vegas, the Grand Canyon.

  24. -You stepping in and helping me with Sachin when I needed it so badly.

  25. -Our plans to retire together (you, me and Brian) and swing on the porch in our old age.

  26. -Our last words to each other: “I love you sis” and “I love you too”...

I love you Meryll, you were the most incredible sister anyone could ever have. Give mom a big hug for me (and tell her I forgive her for interrupting my performance that night!)


This is the eulogy prepared and delivered by her beautiful daughter Lindy-Ann at her funeral, what a proud moment for Meryll and Brian as everyone witnessed the wisdom and strength of this amazing young woman:

“Good morning everyone and thank you for coming. I stand here before you representing my family, speaking on behalf of them in honor of my mother, Meryll. I have had the honor and privilege of knowing Meryll for 28 of her 49 years on earth. I am so proud to call myself my mother’s child.

It doesn’t feel real that she is not with us today. She was such a beautiful person inside and out and her smile was infectious enough to light up any room. In our family my mom was the source of encouragement and strength, of support and love. She brought out the best in each of us and constantly yet gracefully pushed us to be the best that we could be.

She was such a talented woman, yet put the needs of her family and those she cared about above her own. She excelled in Speed Skating, 100m hurdles, high jump, not to mention playing men’s league squash right up to the time before her main operation almost 3 years ago to the day. For anyone who has had a chance to see the scrap books she put together, it’s easy to see where our creative gene comes from. She was the energizer bunny to most who knew her and naturally the center of attention at any function. Always the first and the last one on the dance floor, most times out-dancing the youngsters.

One thing I remember as a child is that we very seldom lived as a family of 4, as mom would always open her home and her life to those in need. She was one of the most caring people I have known.

To my dad, she was his biggest supporter and his biggest fan. Always right by his side during the long runs, swims, cycles and training sessions. Never complaining when she had to get up at 4:30 in the morning to second dad in the middle of winter on his runs just to make sure he had drinks and snacks along the way. Brian and Meryll made the perfect team.

In the last 3 years dad become mom’s biggest fan and her biggest supporter. I am so proud of my dad and how he worked with my mom and I know she was proud too. The last 3 years have been an inspiration to all and a testament of their love for one another. Dad, you were mom’s everything.

The last 3 years were mom’s hardest. Those who were close to her, who lived through this struggle with her, know where my words are coming from. Mom spent 3 years trapped in a body that didn’t seem to want to work. 3 years ago mom made the decision to come back to her family, to pull through and to fight. And it’s because of this courage that we were blessed to hold on to her for those extra years and have those extra special memories of her.

It’s because of this courage that she got see Aiden turn one, two, and three, and she got to meet her second grandson Brennan and be there for his first birthday. Mom was as strong as she was passionate. Her pride and joy in her life was her family. When God called her this time around, she made the right decision. She knew we would all be OK. And when she realized that, she chose the path that would set her free.

Today you are free mom. You are laid to rest with dignity, with the love of hundreds of people. You have given us memories that we will cling to for a lifetime. Your bright spirit will forever lead us and your life will be evident in everything we do going forward.

Mom, you were my best friend and I will miss you every minute of every day.”


JULY 27, 2009: What’s New?